生活中的攀比是家长们的事,不管是哪种形式的攀比,家长都得为此付出一定的人力、物力、财力,这些都是家长为此所付出的“代价”。但是,许多父母未曾想到的是,真正付出的代价的却是处在攀比中的孩子们。 事实上,由于先天条件及后天环境的不同,每个孩子都有着自己独特的个性和发展潜质。养育孩子,只有尊重规律和科学,才能起到事半功倍的效果。教育孩子过程中的攀比实质上是以一个统一的标准,或是以别的孩子的标准来衡量自己的孩子。此种做法忽视了孩子之间存在的诸如兴趣爱好、身体发育状况、后天成长环境等个体差异,而一味以家长自己的想法来要求孩子,这不但违背了成长的规律,而且也会使孩子对世界的看法和感受公式化,最终必然会限制个性的发展。 因此,在生活中让孩子做回真实的自己,从小立志,才能为这个目标而努力,学习成绩自然会提高。
In the life of the comparison is parents, no matter which kind of form of comparison, parents have to pay a certain human, material and financial resources, these are all parents to pay "cost". But, many parents never thought is, the real cost of is at the competition with the children. In fact, because congenital conditions and the environment is different, every child with a unique personality and development potential. Raising children, only respect rule and science to have twice the result with half the effort. In the process of education children themselves, is essentially a uniform standard, or with other children to measure their children. It neglected children between interest, such as body development condition, the day after tomorrow growth environment of the individual difference, and blindly to parents with ideas of their own to requirements to children, this not only violate the law of growth, but would also make the child's view about the world and feel the formulation, eventually will limit the development of personality. Therefore, in the life let the child go back to the true, since the childhood aspire to, to strive for this goal, study result natural will improve.
Newdays compare with other student have to pay a certain human, material and financial resources, these are all parents to pay "cost". But, many parents never thought is, the real cost of is at the competition with the children. In fact, because congenital conditions and the environment is different, every child with a unique personality and development potential. Raising children, only respect rule and science to have twice the result with half the effort. In the process of education children themselves, is essentially a uniform standard, or with other children to measure their children. It neglected children between interest, such as body development condition, the day after tomorrow growth environment of the individual difference, and blindly to parents with ideas of their own to requirements to children, this not only violate the law of growth, but would also make the child's view about the world and feel the formulation, eventually will limit the development…… 望采纳